Express. Yourself.

Expressing yourself can be hard as fuck sometimes. Especially when you don’t have something necessarily good to say.

But in hindsight, it’s better to at least try. Though the convo may not play out as you thought/planned, hell at least you tried. At least you put forth the effort to let the other person know what was on your mind, on your heart.

And if they can’t appreciate the value in that, then there’s something wrong with them, not you.

Communication is so important on every level of life. Sometimes we get so caught up in the fact that someone is saying something ‘negative’ and we forget to even just appreciate the fact that they’re expressing themselves. Allowing themselves to express how they feel.

And don’t let the fact that previous conversations turned into arguments keep you from listening to them.

Listen to respond, not to react.

I believe people can change, for good or bad, but they can change. So every conversation isn’t going to be like the one before. You or they don’t always have to be the villain in the situation. Maybe they fuckin figured it out and actually just want to tell you something that’s concerning them. They felt safe enough to tell you, so respect that and embrace the connection rather than whatever ‘negativity‘ you feel coming from it. Don’t get upset, just connect and understand them.

Express yourself.
Embrace change.
Believe in love.

365 DoK: Day 11 & 12

Day 11:

I went to Walmart to pick up my groceries (yes I order and pick up my groceries from Walmart. It’s easy and convenient and keeps me from buying excess crap!)

Like always, it’s a cluster during rush hour traffic. I wasn’t in a rush or hurry, so I let some people go before me to enter the parking lot and let people pass to go onto the street.

Day 12:

Hmmm I’m not sure what kindness I did today lol honestly i never even left my house today.

Maybe I impacted someone on social media or a simple convo I had today and just am unaware?

Who knows. I don’t see it as a failure, though.

Is it even possible to do something kind every single day for a year?

We shall freaking see.

365 DoK: Day 9 & 10

Day 9

I was on my way home, after staying a little late at work one day. I was almost home when I saw that traffic was backed up because of a wreck.

Of course cars were trying to get over and merge, and Houston isn’t the greatest at merging. Well, one car was really trying to get over, the right way, blinkers and everything.

So I decided to be nice and let them over since no one else would!

Day 10

Today, I want to recognize my husband for doing something so kind.

I wanted some Snickers ice cream, so he went to Walgreens to grab a box.

When he got home, he told me there was a man with his son, asking someone for money. They could have just said no, but they were rude and obnoxious about it.

Well, the man ended up asking Johnny, as well. Instead of giving the man cash, which he didn’t have any on him, he bought the stuff the man was trying to pay for.

Apple juice and cheezits for his son.

Melted my heart. I’m so happy I married someone who can empathize and give. He helps me be kinder on my meaner days lol

Keep spreading love, y’all.

365 DoK: Day 8

Everyone has been there – stomach is hurting and you just want to hit the floor crying.

That was my coworker yesterday. Her stomach was killing her, and she couldn’t really figure out why. I had a Sprite that I wasn’t drinking and remembered how Sprite always normally helps my stomach when it’s messed up.

So I gave it to her ♥

I’m surprised at how many opportunities open themselves up each day for me to be kind. Not just to others, but to myself. It’s really just a matter of being aware and consciously making the decision to be better.

To be kinder.

Definitely let me know if any of you have jumped on board and started performing random acts of kindness!

365 DoK: Day 6 & 7

Day 6

Ok so some of you may not think this was kind, but even the little things count!

My husband and I are practicing establishing better routines. Part of that is drinking water first thing every morning. To prepare for that, we set a bottle of water on our night stand each night before bed.

Well, he forgot to grab his one night, so I got it for him! I want him to succeed! ❤️

Day 7

My doctor changed offices and is now upstairs in a bigger area. When I first went to her new office, I had no idea where stuff was!

Well, I had a doctors appointment today, and saw someone who obviously had never been to her new office yet. I helped show her where the waters were and where the bathroom was located. She was so thankful!

Again, simple but effective ❤️

365 DoK: Day 1 & 2

I kind of messed up and decided right before bed to finally write this post, but

HAPPY NEW YEAR!

As I mentioned before, I’m practicing 365 Days of Kindness (DoK) for 2019. I’m going to try not to be a sourpuss anymore [ha!]

Day 1: We were over at my sister’s house for New Year’s, and I realized that she has her security system and cameras and everything, but no smart home device like Alexa or Google Home. Not that it’s necessary, but I definitely love the ease of asking a multitude of questions and instantly getting an answer. And I just so happen to have this extra Google Home mini laying around, unopened, sooooo. I gave it to her.

Day 2: This one isn’t anything crazy. Just sent my little sister some cash. I could have said no, but I didn’t, so see! Baby steps.

I wonder how hard it’ll be kind on like Day 245. What more is there to do? Haha, I mean I know I don’t have to give something every time, but really. I feel like I’m going to have to create instances of kindness rather than just acting on opportunities. Who knows.

We’ll see what tomorrow brings. Maybe you’ll pick up on my vibes and do something kind also?

OH and I started using this app called Fabulous, and it really has been fabulous! It’s helping me develop routines/good habits. I’ve been drinking water the first thing when I wake up, and today was the third day.

I freaking had a salad for lunch then came home and worked out! How productive right! We also bought a couch and I got a shnazzy new cute as hell planner. Trying out the Agenda 52 brand. Hobby Lobby didn’t have a great selection of the Happy Planner that I was looking for.

Anywhoozle. Good Night.

365 Days of Kindness

Are yall ready for all the cheesy “New Year, New Me” posts? I promise I’m unfriending everyone who posts thaaaat!!

Why do we feel the need to reinvent ourselves every year? I get it. It’s a great starting over point, but some people are just so dramatic with it. And all for it to last about a month or two.

I don’t normally do New Year’s resolutions, but I’m thinking about somewhat participating in 2019 by doing 365 days of kindness. Not that I’m a mean person, but I just want to do something extra. Even if it’s something as simple as holding the door open for someone or letting them cut in front of me in traffic. The possibilities are endless.

Maybe it’lll inspire some of you rude asses to do better lol

Hope everyone had an amazing Christmas and a safe New Year. I’ll try to post every day for 2019 with an update on my kindness journey. I think it’ll lead to more peace within myself, a healthier soul.

WTF I’ve Been Up To Lately

So yeah, I’m pregnant and engaged…and still working! What does that mean? I pretty much love and hate my life at the same time. I mean, it’s not that bad, but it could definitely be better [the work part I mean]. I just do not feel like getting up every morning, drive all the way to work, do some meaningless shit, get worn out, drive home, and try to have some kind of energy to take care of the other things in my life. Like preparing for Amora and planning my wedding!

Had a doctor’s appointment yesterday…ultrasound said she weighs 7lbs 3oz…fuck. I will be 38 weeks on Friday, so that means I could potentially have an 8 or 8 1/2 pounder. But get this: at my previous appointments, my doctor was telling me my pelvis is narrow. I can’t say I’m shocked, because my sisters’ pelvises are narrow as well. They had to get C-sections with all of their kids. I was/am optimistic that I’ll be able to push out my baby though. So my doctor ordered this ultrasound for me this past week. WELL, I went to the doctor on Tuesday for my ultrasound and appointment, and she wasn’t even there! The staff said she would be out for the rest of the week for an emergency.She wanted me to get this ultrasound so she could see how big she was and we can make some kind of game plan. Now I’m stuck waiting until I see her again on Jan 3rd. Mind you, my due date is Jan 13th, so we’ll see if I make it that far. Her head is down in my pelvis, but I don’t know if I’m dilated or anything since doc wasn’t there to check me. I could possibly have a baby tomorrow, no big deal.

Wedding planning has been great. I bought http://www.AshleyandJohnny.com so you’ll be seeing some lovely things pop up on there in the coming weeks. We also picked out our wedding bands! Super early, I know, but they were perfect. Fuck, I’m excited to literally spend the rest of my life with the man of dreams. I know that sometimes I don’t act like it [mainly due to hormones] but I am stupid in love with this man. 256 days until we say “I do”…

Christmas was great, as well. Johnny made a perfect turkey that my family and I can’t stop talking about. It was his first time, and it was the tits. I got some lovely gifts and spent time with family; can’t complain there. Oh, and that extra day off from work was phenom.

[I might, poooossibly be addicted to tracking my steps/fitness with this fitbit Blaze. Why is this shit so addicting? I’ve even got Johnny falling into the dark side lol. Do you have any kind of activity tracker or do you just use your cell phone? Or C: you don’t give a F about it?]

Some pictures are below in case you haven’t checked out my Instagram widget on the right!

 

I hope yall had a wonderful Christmas!

Mr. Chocolate Sasquatch and Amora

That’s right. I’m getting married! Who would have thought?!
Ok, I mean, I’m not that awful where no one would want to marry me…but woo!

I also found out that I’m having a girl! Baby Amora. I set up an email address for her so her daddy and I can email her pictures, videos, and other sweet whatnots. We will give her the email address and password when she’s a teenager or something so she can look back on everything! Pictures, pictures, pictures is what everyone is telling me.

[good thing I’m so damn photogenic!]

I’m beyond excited for the things to come for my beautifully blossoming family.

THE RING:
the-ring

I’ve got to go spend some quality time with my fiance 😉 later dudes.

C.S.

Just a Quickie

I have some things in mind that I need to take care of, but I just wanted to throw some things out there for you to mull over until I return…

  1. I’m going to have a baby!! We are super excited and have had quite a journey so far. I am 14 weeks preggers today and haven’t puked in 3 weeks 🙂
  2. I am so so proud of seeing my peers and friends accomplish things they have worked so hard for! It’s great motivation to achieve my own goals. Sometimes their paths are a bit easier to success, but it will just make my success that much more gratifying, right?
  3. I now write for My Trending Stories! I have only posted on their once, but still have to get a feel for the site. They told me I can write about whatever the hell I wanted as long as it wasn’t offensive to a particular group of people like being racist or something, but I don’t know if they truly know who they’re dealing with here lol

Spread love. Eat cupcakes. Unicorns are real. Love yall.